A Mother's Story...

I knew Shane was going to die.  I just didn’t want him to suffer.

 It is so hard to lose a child.  You cannot imagine.  A part of you dies when they die.  I miss him so much.  I will never truly get over this loss, but I take great comfort in knowing that his last days were peaceful.

I couldn’t have gotten through this without the support of Catawba Regional Hospice.

Shane was funny, warm, and generous.  He loved life and made the most of the 44 years he was given.  After losing Shane, I prayed that I would die too so that I could be reunited with him.  Then one day, I realized that Shane would want me to live.

Shane struggled with alcoholism, and no matter how hard he tried, he could not overcome his addiction.  Alcoholism cost him his employment, his marriage, and his home.  I came to realize that he would not lead a long life.  His health had begun to deteriorate.  His liver and kidneys were failing.  Within the last six months of his life, Shane accepted that his time on this earth was almost over.

Shane was hospitalized on a Friday.  He was so sick, and we were told that he would likely never leave the hospital.  My husband and I wanted Shane to be at home with us, but I couldn’t manage on my own.  I needed help, and I knew that help needed to come from Catawba Regional Hospice.  The next day, the doctor asked if I wanted to call hospice and take Shane home.  I was thankful.

Shane did not have health insurance, yet Catawba Regional Hospice provided the care he needed.  With hospice, all of Shane’s needs were met.  Medical equipment and medications were delivered, so everything was ready when he came home from the hospital.  Shane told me that he knew this was where he was meant to be, and I felt fulfilled.  Our hospice nurse and social worker spoke to us in a caring and honest manner.  They shared that Shane only had days to live. 

I am thankful that Shane was treated with compassion when he needed it most.  Many times, I felt that no one wanted to help my son because he was an alcoholic, but the staff of Catawba Regional Hospice accepted him and cared for him without judgement.  They treated him as a person.

The day before Shane passed was a great day.  His friends, children, and family all came to visit.  Stories were shared.  The room was filled with love and laughter.  In the wee hours of the next morning, Shane’s breathing changed.  My husband and I were there when Shane came into this world, and we were with him when he took his last breath.  I want people to know that Catawba Regional Hospice helped my son leave this world in a peaceful way.

I have experienced hospice care, and I know how special it is.

It has been a little over a year since Shane passed, and I have benefited greatly from the support of a bereavement counselor.  It comforts me to hear her voice on the other end of the phone.  She has visited me at home, and I attended the Service of Remembrance and Blessing.  It was so hard but so beautiful.

My life has been forever changed through my hospice experience, and it brings me peace to know that, when the time comes, Catawba Regional Hospice will be there for me again.

Hospice care is important.  I believe in my heart that it should be available to everyone in need, regardless of their financial situation.  Many people do not realize that the care provided by Catawba Regional Hospice does not end with the passing of your loved one.  I am grateful for the amazing support that has been provided to me as I grieve the loss of my son.  

I choose to remember and honor my son by donating to Catawba Regional Hospice. 

Together, we can ensure that the same meaningful care that touched my family will be available to others who, like my son, have no way to cover the costs of care. 

 

Will you join me in giving today?

 

With gratitude,

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Marsha Lentz

 

Your support will allow Catawba Regional Hospice to care for people in need – regardless of age, illness, or ability to pay for services – while embracing the families who love them.  Will you commit today so that patients and families can continue to receive the gift of compassionate care?